On being a dating moron

You know, at my age, I should be good at dating.

Hell I've been dating for well over 20 years.

And sadly, I'm not.

Good at it, that is.

And do you know why? I tend to make the process all about me.

Now, that's not the real true crime here, just making it obvious is.

So after some extensive thought and discussion with a real pro ( married 12 years to prove it), I discovered what I was doing wrong.

I wasn't actually doing the wrong things in theory, but in practice it wasn't being delivered properly.

For example, and this is ONLY an example, mind you.

Say you want a man to call you more often. Calling and leaving a message that he needs to call you more often, while direct and leaves no room for misinterpretation, is the wrong approach in the early part of a dating relationship.

If you want a man to call you more frequently you have to make it worth his while to call. You need him to WANT and NEED to speak to you more often.

If you are person, such as I am, who is not good at games, and was raised to be honest and direct, well this kind of approach is a difficult one to learn.

This is not flirting necessarily. It is a kind of cross between playing hard to get ( another game I suck at) and flirting. Mixed properly, this approach can net you your next date.

Now in my current situation, I have a built in safety net. But it's not fool proof. I found that out the hard way.

One things for sure. I have the best team of advisors to get me through this and stil have fun.

Oh crap - I have nothing to wear... stay tuned.