The freudian slip

Most people I am close to are equating my relationsjip with Jon to a marriage.

DEAR LORD I HOPE THIS IS NOT WHAT MARRIAGE IS.

Well I hope this is not ALL that marriage is.

Truthfully speaking, until there's an actualy wedding I don't feel like we're married.

Of course - I have NO frame of reference to this. So I can only tell you this based on what I have witnessed and heard about.

So it when my best friend made the comment that we were married - I laughed it off. When My mom, who lived for years with my step dad before they got married, commented that I was married- I paused but laughed it off.

Third time is the charm right?

I was at my pilates class at his congregation ( UU Congregation) and I was the only non member there. All of them including the instructor were married to Jewish men. They were all cracking the joke that they were jewish by injection. All of sudden it got quiet and they looked at me. I looked up from my mat and noticed the stares.... uh oh what did I miss? Did I pay the wrong amount? crap.

"Are you Jewish? are you married to one? " they asked me.

"No - I'm married to a Born and raised UU." I replied.

Crap. I can't believe that came out of my mouth. So readily off the cuff too.... yeesh how to back pedal from this....,

"Well - we aren't married - but there are days when it FEELS like we are...."

Whew - that generated some laughing and some " I HEAR THAT" kind of commentary.

I was happy when the instructor finally got down to business.

In light of a lot of things that happen politically lately I think that everyone should have the right to kind of relationship that is right for them - with whomever they want to be with. It should be allowed to be legal. There is no good reason why it shouldn't. We are a non religious country therefor that should not be the defining factor.

I love this man and he loves me. We live together and may never go through a wedding. But this is a marriage. It's a marriage of souls.

And that's what's important.