Project Managing my household.

OK I'll just say it.

Sometimes the communications skils or lack there of in my home are just annoying. Plain and simple.

For both of us. I'm NO prize.

So Friday - after de-gluing his ass from the couch - he went and worked out at my Best Friends' house.

When he came home he took both my hands in his and said "Jenna is really worried about the condition of our home. She kindly offered to help us clean up and organize"

My head internally combusted.

Why is this conversation taking place with my best friend and not with me?

I do some emails with her and a phone conversation and come to discover that he was using her as an intermediary to approach the topic.

That actually angers me more.

The fact is I have been doing literally everything in the house for, well, ever. He has been sitting on the couch playing with Yahoo Answers for 3 weeks licking his wounds. And I don't even know what the wounds were at the time....

Well I now know what the wounds are and this is legit. However. I'm not yet over the whole bringing my best friend into this.

So I bite the bullet and tell him that Jenna can't help us til January and I don't want to wait that long so lets come up with a plan.

He looked at me, blinked and admitted that he has a lot of worries. I told him that financial worries, while substantial and not to be ignored, can be dealt with as long as you have a plan. He's notorious for no plan, so this is huge.

First thing I did was take the first financial priority and address it. We needed to fill out some forms to do a change of address on his reg and DL. That way we can get him a parking permit for the building and stop the bleeding. Next we have to take care of the parking tickets ( we have the meter maid from hell here and the abolutely MOST ridiculous parking rules).

Then I told him we need to start by getting his dining table out of storage and I will buy the chairs we want.

As for organizing - I gave him his choice. He opted for the kitchen and we arranged to start on Sunday.

That done - we happily skipped through the weekend. Did I mention that my brother's wife gave birth to a baby boy? First kid for this sibling. Additionally, his first name is the same as the whore's youngest - not my fav. The middle name is after my brother and my dad. Which is lovely. He looks like my brother. I got to hold him - he's so tiny. So good.

We get to Sunday. He goes to services, I go to teach. I come home and immediately set about the emptying of the cabinets. 2 hours later - he strolls through the door with his guitar in his hand, all happy, and says - Oh I was kind of planning to blow this off today and I thought you were too.....

WRONG.

If you do something so ridiculous as to bring a third person into the equation - don't you EVER think I'm going to "blow it off." For that matter, if you go so far as to make a plan with me - you had better pony up because this is, by the way, WHAT I DO FOR A FREAKING LIVING.

He is downright shocked.

So he gets to work.

THe entire time that we are working, I am getting frustrated. Why? Because he is setting up the kitchen to suit HIM. I am not factored into the equation.

For reference, so you understand, I am 5' 2" tall and he is 6'. So I will concede on some things but not on everything. Don't tell me, for example, that we are going to put the toaster oven that we use EVERY SINGLE day on the top of the cabinets and just take it down and put it back.

That's stupid.

We use it - EVERY DAY. that should be lower to the ground.

I am willing to utilize the space differently and hell I will make all of it seem like his idea, but can't you at least try and make a couple of concessions for the fact that I cook and bake too and that I'm SHORT????

He finally stopped, looked at me and said - "You haven't eaten today have you?" Negatory good buddy!

So we took an extended break, ate, and then I took a bath and detoxed a bit and finally put the items on the counter away temporarily.

He will take it from here.


We discussed paint choices for the house, we discussed how to get the furniture and when. We talked about the fact that in this economy, buying a new home is not really optional right now. We'll see what happens. but I'm not planning it right now.

We are communicating better. I think we are both working a bit harder at this.

Man - marriage - real or common law - is hard damn work.

worth it in the end though.