Blog silent

I know I have been "blog silent" for awhile and I keep drafting posts up now and again but never finishing them to actually post them.

Largely because I don't know how to finish them.

Being a fairly decisive person, I usually make and stick by my decisions. They don't come easily but once I decide, after research of course and m y trusty pros and cons list, I plow forth.

I have made some "snap" decisions in this past month that are very uncharacteristic of me. I am not upset with them. I am not unhappy with them, I am just still undergoing the normal process that I go through while making them, even though I already know the outcome...

Yes - I admit that's weird. And the topics are not topics I can readily discuss on my blog as they are, while good fundamentally, too serious in nature, for me to post at this time.

I will acknowlede that the job change hasn't taken place yet. Though I am DYING for this to happen and sooner rather than later.

I reconnected with my dear friend Elle. I have missed her horribly so this is a good thing. And she needs me too, which is nice, as she is now going through a divorce. I have missed her kid too so equally good for me.....

I have sung my swan song with the Merrick Chorale. They are using me and not paying me so as much as I love the folks that sing there, I will not be singing the major works with them in the future. If my coach is directing, I will happily sing, but that's it. I will be using the line "I'm so sorry - I'm not available on those days" and moving on. Of course if they decide to offer it to me and pay me - different story altogether.

I honestly have no issues other than my living environment and I am working through that.

I do want to comment on my post the other day "good is not the absence of bad".

Mrs. Jackson posted a great reference on that post - please take a look - especially if you know her. She is completely right. With one exception that I did not include in my post:

Psychological abuse. It's as evil if not more so than the physical. Because it's harder to undo. though neither is acceptable or good in any way. It's subtle in nature and usually you don't even realize it's happening until it's too late. YOu just feel wretched and don't understand why.

But generally speaking - A good relationship is whatever you define goodness as. For me, goodness includes but is not limitied to: Love, laughter, conversation, attraction, intelligence, commitment, compromise.

That's for my purposes.

But as for being blog silent I promise to try and be more proactive.