My life...

is no longer recognizable.

I'm not sad about that overall.

But have you ever stepped back, reviewed where you are now and wonder how you got there?

And more importantly - why you are there?

I was listening to a broadway show in the care on my way home tonight ( I'm singing a duet with a student of mine for a cabaret concert). It was released in 1991. It's a good show, not phenomenal by any means in my opinion but it does ring some powerful emotions to the surface. It's not a happy show either.

In listening to it, I am reminded that this was the year I graduated with my undergrad degrees in Music Ed and performance. We all left school with stars in our eyes and the hope of future in hearts.

Of course there are pitfalls as well as the pinacles. Between my three best friends from college and I, in the last 17 years we have experienced marriage, children, death of a parent, sever health scares, purchase of first and second homes, multiple job changes, divorce, construction, etc.

This is what makes up life in the reality as well as the abstract.

My life, is shaken up right now. I am still sorting through the pieces to be honest. I started having this conversation with Bernie the other night - and don't worry - I want to finish it with you and I hope you are around on Thursday evening......

But I digress from myself....

I have a lot of things that I am looking at differently.

I noticed that I hate my job. In ways I can't describe. But I know why. I work for someone who demeans his people and is never pleased. When you work for someone like that, you are constantly belittled and berated for doing the same good job that you did before. I have no problem with high expectations, but I do have a problem with consistantcy and trusting that the person above you has your back.

I have 3 more days. It can't come fast enough.

As for my living situation. My life is not less complicated with my best friend here. But it is better. For the most part. Yes we fight. Yes we make up. We are passionate people so the fights are always dramatic. Someone tries to leave, someone persuades them to stay. It's never the same twice.

We are finding out way here. I don't know a different way to say that. It's not new to him but it is for me. I find that he is more patient with me than even I realize here.

My life is practically unrecognizable from before - BUT - we are working on the compromise thing and it's starting to take on elements of each others lives and slowly building into one.

He said perfectly the other day. IN choosing a life together you are choosing just the good and bad times, but you are choosing to do the work that takes the everday living and blends it into the good and bad times. Its this work that is the most diffcult.

There are times I miss my life from the past year. Or aspects of it. I miss aspects of our relationship that are now different. Some better, some not, some the same.

Mostly my problems relate to change and my inability to deal wtih it.

My life is changing drastically. We'll see how this pans out.