The grass is always greener

I heard an expression by a comedienne once:

Curly-haired people want straight hair, Straight-haired people want curly hair and bald men want everyone to be blind.

Essentially that sums up the post I am embarking on.

Basically, the grass is always greener. Fat people want to be thin, thin people try to gain weight.

morning people want to be night owls, night owls want to be morning people.

So why is it that human beings can't be satisfied with what they have and have the capability of producing?

A question as sold as time, and I have no answer that is any better than any other. But I do have some thoughts on this.

There is a way to be content with what you have. I firmly believe that and in light of the thanksgiving holiday this seems like a good time to address this. Only I don't always know how to go about this.

I had an eight year old child say to me once, that the most important thing she is trying to learn is how to be happy with what she has and not want more. Eight. Yes, seriously. She's an exceptionally bright only child of exceptionally bright only children. I did not know how to react to that comment.

With my weight I want to be thin. I know what I need to do to get there and I am not interested in a "quick fix". I don't expect to be model thin and frankly it's not healthy. I don't look at thin people and wish up on a star. Not anymore. I know how to achieve my goal and I just need to keep working at it every day.

With my music, I want to be better than I am but I know that requires work too. It also requires some psych maneuvers for auditions and that sort of thing. It also requires people to believe in you. If they are throwing tomatoes at you, this is probably not your gig. I have the talent to do the job. I have the drive to do the job. It just requires patience.

I have a home that I love. It's the perfect size for just me. Is it my little stone cottage in french countryside? no. But that's OK - I pretend that it is. And that's what makes it good.

The truth is, other than a mate, I am content with what I have. I am not a fiend for money, so I don't WANT more - of course, if it comes to me I will not turn it down.

As for finding a mate.... I am happy whether I have one or not. I would LIKE one though and that's also OK. But I'm not sad at being a single person. It enables certain freedoms that married people don't have. By the same token married people have a built in date for national holidays and there is someone around to take care of and to care for you. So each way has it's plusses and minuses. Man was not meant to be alone. God made Eve out of Adam's rib to be his companion. However I will not marry just to be married. So I persevere on, meeting new people and seeing what happens.

So back to my original dilemma. Can people want what they have? And what if they don't know how to accomplish that? Is there a way to change the mindset ? I don't know when my mindset changed or even if it really ever did. I would love to hear your feed back on this since it boggles my mind.

By the way I would like to extend a warm welcome to my brother who has found my blog after such a short lived search - Bravo Bud! I knew you would find me! Love you! We had a nice day yesterday!


So to end where I began... Is it possible to Have what you want and want what you have?

I think so.