I have always believed that the jury is out on this one.
Is there really one perfect person for everyone in the world?
In hebrew, the term "Beshert" means "destined" or "fated". The context is generally applied to another person.
"The Talmud (Moed Katan 18b; Sotah 2a) tells us that G-d personally chooses matches for people. A match that G-d has chosen is certainly "destined", even if it does not actually come about (for example, if the couple does not want to be a couple). The idea that matches are destined goes back to Genesis; Rivkah's behavior at the well demonstrated to Eliezer that "this is the woman whom G-d has appointed for my master's son" (Gen. 24:14,44).. In German, "bescheren" sometimes means "to give" or "to bestow"; thus one's given portion is "beschert" (the -er or -e ending indicates that the thing being given is male or female). This Hebrew association may have reinforced the Yiddish meaning of "beshert" as "fated" or "destined". "
-Torah.org
I'm not sure I ever bought into it.
I wanted to, with all my heart. But I just never saw this "matching up of twin souls" happening for me.
A little history here: I'm German, I'm French, I'm scottish, I'm english, I'm Irish. I'm Episcopalian. It doesn't matter, because every race, religion and creed has their own version of this concept. I happen to be drawn to the Hebrew version and since Jesus was technically Jewish - born, raised AND died - I tend to have an interest in that religion since Christianity is born of Judaism.
Back to Soul Mates. The point here is that, in theory, most of the famous poets in the world beleive that if we all took a chill pill and stopped looking, we would meet that perfect person. That Soul mate, their Beshert.
I think of my many friends who have met their mates. Married their mates. My mother who married her "prince charming" after divorcing the father of her children.
Divorce is just a sign that you haven't met that person. Can this be true? Can this be right? Why is it so rampant now the it was in our parents generations? Was it because they just suffered in silence?
I know this post opens a lot of questions up. I have been reading up on this and looking up information for awhile on this topic.
I question if I truly don't believe in it or am I just pouting because I am as old as I am and haven't met that person? Or I did and blew it off?
The fact is I can't imagine myself with anyone else.
But "soul mates?"
I don't know.
Tell me your thoughts on this folks! I'm merely curious to know what you all think of soul mates - do you believe in it or not?
1 comment:
I'm not sure about the soul mates part because I do think that timing has a lot to do with it. My husband and I knew each other for many years before we got together and we have often pondered the "what if" of if we'd dated when we first met at 17 would we have ended up together later on in our late twenties. If it truly was "beshert" then it also had to be beshert when we were the people ready for that kind of relationship.
But that said, I can't imagine spending my life with any one of the "frogs" who came before him.
My 2 cents for today.
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