The trials of the living

A mutual friend was visiting today. She got married in the big "wedding" we went to in November. She has "retired" after 25 years in the insurance industry.

A slight backing up.... my best friend got notification that there are some complications with paper work and his vehicle. I had suggested that we put him on my policy anyway awhile ago as there is a mulit car discount as well as an age discount - so this would be a good thing. Now it's actually a necessity.

So while our friend was here, I called my agent and inquired about what was required. I get the listing of necessary items. She laughs and asks if we are getting married. He looks at me, I look at him and he says "Nah - it's cheaper this way!".

Now if Mrs Jackson hadn't sent me her email yesterday about the difference between men and women - I would have actually read into that.

Generally speaking this entire health situation has put so much in a very specific perspective. For starters, I have noticed that I am really not caring for myself the way that I once did and at the same time I am doing more of it than I used to. It's in different areas of focus.

For example, my exercize - all but gone. But I have read up on how a caretaker should be dealing with things for themselves.

My taxes? Not done yet. My music? Well all I can say there is that I just performed an aria ( Una Voce Poco Fa) from the Barber of Seville and didn't give a crap whether or not I knew the words correctly or not. And yes I blew a couple of words but the vast majority were dead on and because I didn't give a crap the entire thiing was brilliant. But I'm not working so hard at it and that's not good. But my piano skills are improving - go figure.

Reading - not as much my normal stuff - much more on holistic healing, caring for the caretaker, caring for cancer patients, dealing with illness etc.

I have some legal issues I am going through - nothing bad or major. But it did take me to my friend and attorney. He performed in the concert with me yesterday as well. He is going through his own array of shit too. He and his wife are separating after 35 years together. She came to the performance yesterday and he sang "The way you look tonight". I was touched to be honest. There is still love there between them. It makes me happy and sad for them. I hope they can work it out - it's an awful lot of time invested. We talked a bit about that, covered my issues, more minor than I thought and moved on.

My house needs shaping up. We have put a lot of things on hold pending tests and the like that the normal tasks of living have built up a bit. Hence the reason my taxes are not done yet.

My skin, while not as bad as it could be, is not great. I have made the doctor appointment necessary and will see them tomorrow.

At some point normal will kick in. I just do not know when.

I wonder if you can get a tax extension because of cancer......